You're healing from self-sacrifice, but everyday moments still leave you exhausted and second-guessing as you try to figure out the right thing to do for everyone. Discover how to master the skill of loving God, yourself, AND others simultaneously, so you never again have to choose between 'neighborly love' and abandoning yourself.
You've bravely started your self-sacrificial healing journey, dealing with your internal world. But then life happens: relational tension when others resist your new behavior, a comment that stings, or simply the daily friction of relationships that leaves you feeling unseen or unheard. In these countless moments, you feel that familiar pull to lose yourself by either slipping back into self-sacrifice, silencing your feelings or hardening your heart to protect yourself – creating the very thing you're trying to avoid. That's not the confident, whole person you want to be..
"What do I do? What do I say? How do I respond when my confidence is shaken, when I'm afraid of derailing everything I've worked for, or when I just don't know what I truly want/need in this moment?"
How do I not lose myself in doing for others and helping others? 'Just set boundaries' oversimplification and other generic advice falls short, leaving you caught between old patterns and new intentions. You need guidance and skill for navigating the real-time daily moments – the decision fatigue of small daily choices, the exhaustion from lack of reciprocity, and the constant fear of being seen as 'selfish.' Skills that help you know "What to do" and "how to do it" in ways that align with your truest self, without feeling disingenuous or fake.
I'm Chañel Robe. Like you, I know the bleak exhaustion and emotionally drained feeling of trying to love others without losing myself. I burned out twice from self-sacrifice and almost slipped into permanently hardening my heart. I felt my healing was fragile. Things changed when I realized inner work isn't enough, without practical, in-the-moment skills to navigate the daily demands and relational tension. We fall to the level of our training.
The Pink Flamingo Way bridges the gap between your healing journey and daily reality. It's a faith-aligned love mastery framework that equip you with the skills to know "what to do" and "how to do it" so you stop second-guessing and silently suffering. You'll confidently navigate any relationship dynamic – family, friends, colleagues – rooted in your truest, God-given identity (what I call your pink flamingo self), without feeling like you have to prove your perspective or sanity.
Anchor into your truest "Pink Flamingo" self - so your worth, standards, boundaries, actions and way of thinking are rooted in who God says you are and who you desire to be - not in what you do for others, the fear of being seen as selfish, the need to protect yourself or what others think. This helps you trust your own internal voice and feel secure in who you are.
Navigate your feelings and express your heart with confidence, so you can respond as your truest "Pink Flamingo" self rather than react in challenging moments. No more difficulty expressing anger or frustration healthily, or masking true feelings. Deepen relationships through emotional honesty and empathy instead of silent suffering, suppression, defensiveness or judgment.
Skillfully love others as yourself in every area of life so you have deeper relationships without trying to control people/ outcomes, the resentment towards those you serve, the fear of losing relationships, or the emotional exhaustion of over-giving. Set boundaries that align with and increase your capacity to be your truest "Pink Flamingo" self while discerning healthy relationship dynamics and receiving support from others, and distinguishing 'neighborly love' from people-pleasing.
"I had read some things. I had talked to my therapist but being a part of this group, the Pink Flamingo Club allows me to connect everyday moments. That reveal to me where myself or others.. may not be showing up in authentically...in who we are and what we do."- Pink Flamingo Club Member
Stop replaying conversations, second-guessing your every move, and feeling emotionally drained by the end of the day. With The Pink Flamingo Way, you will:
Calmly navigate pushback and conflict without the anxiety of conversations about needs or boundaries, and without the guilt after saying 'no.' Speak your truth without hardening your heart. You'll know exactly what to do and say, rooted in your God-given identity, and no longer feel trapped by cultural or religious conditioning.
Feel truly seen and loved as your truest self. Watch your relationships deepen because you're finally showing up authentically, free from silent suffering, masking, and the fear of losing credibility if vulnerable.
Replace anxiety, exhaustion, that constant feeling of 'survival right now,' and the need to control outcomes with joy, purpose, and emotional freedom. Sleep peacefully, knowing you handled things well, and no longer criticizing yourself harshly for perceived failures.
Break generational cycles of self-sacrifice or emotional armor. Model healthy love, inspiring those around you to love God, themselves, and others simultaneously, and no longer feel like your internal growth is fragile or easily undone.
"It helps me see ways my people-pleasing strategies are no longer working in my daily living. Whether it's in my relationship with my husband or with a friend or with my job or with my business or you know in a variety of daily living. [It helps you] break the cycle and break the chain where it's at and create a new pathway that feels aligned to divinity."- Pink Flamingo Club Member
Every day you wait is another moment of quickly reverting to old self-sacrificial patterns, trying to control outcomes, and feeling like your healing is fragile or creating the very thing you're trying to avoid. Your peace, relationships, and calling are too important for decision fatigue and constant guesswork.
For organizations: Training & Workshops AvailableEvery day you wait is another conversation you'll replay, another moment feeling unseen or unheard, another trigger from old patterns. Stop reacting - start responding as your truest Pink Flamingo self.
Take YOU off the backburner of your life. Never put YOURSELF last again. Embrace the Pink Flamingo Way. Be empowered and equipped to serve others in ways that honor YOU, them, & God.